Man I must be so removed from the fandom.
99% of the people I know play f!Hawke. In fact, I was the one who was questioned when I decided to play m!Hawke. We should share friends, OP.
You must be because I have played both ways too and I have been condescended to.
Never had anyone condescend me for playing F!Hawke, honestly. And mine is quite Mary Sueish I worry
I’m not super involved in the fandom, but it seems like FHawkes are pretty common. But you can be belittled for either one, I guess, you’ve got people who pin every single female player character as a Mary Sue and you’ve got people who assume someone who does MHawke and romances Anders/Fenris is some dumb yaoi fangirl who hates women or something. I’ve seen both so idk yall.